🤝Stop Comparing. Start Befriending.
One day at a time
This morning, I put myself in a social media timeout. It’s only Monday, but I could already feel the comparison trap trickling in when I opened up Instagram or TikTok. I’m proud of myself for sensing that the onslaught of negative self-talk was within my reach and making a sharp U-turn instead. I know I’m better at feeling those moments coming because I’ve tripped into many bad days as a result of them.
But today wasn’t going to be one of those days. Today, I didn’t need to hear more about the news, the state of other people’s lives, or the onslaught of really amazing recipes that I’ll bookmark and maybe make one day. Today, I needed to have my own Monday.
I turned my attention towards myself. I did a 20-minute workout. I made a filling breakfast. I started my work day by a sunny window. I reminded myself that the list of things I can control only feels short whenever I compare it to all the world’s problems that I can’t control. If I focus on my side of the street, my list is long, doable, and encouraging.
My willpower isn’t perfect, though. Since this morning, I’ve picked up my phone and opened TikTok more than once. I’m aiming for progress, not perfection. I’m curious about what I’m trying to disassociate from when I scroll and whether I can find the courage to tackle the Monday I’m given the best I can instead.
I know life has recently felt especially grey and heavy for so many. Being in the thick of the winter season doesn’t help. You’re not alone if you’re struggling, wondering, or trying. You’re not alone if you have to put the phone down and pick up what you can manage instead.
It’s Monday. It’s 2025. It’s only March. We’re all trying our best. Start with what you can handle and leave the rest for Tuesday.
C'est une bonne idée ! Stop comparing.
Be a friend of yourself.
This resonates so much - great, gentle reminder that sometimes you need to just unplug and that's okay!